Resources on Proverbs

Chapter 23

How to receive by letting go
By Dr. Jack Graham | March 10, 2020

In 1805, there was a naval battle between England and France that ended with Britain prevailing. Lord Nelson was the Admiral of the British fleet. So the French Admiral came aboard the English ship and stepped into the private quarters of Lord Nelson to surrender.

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Chapter 16

Avoiding the guilt that comes with gossip
By Dr. Jack Graham | February 25, 2020

It’s an unfortunate reality today that gossip has become an acceptable sin for many Christians, social media playing no small part. But I think I’ve found a good way to stop the rumor -mongering that’s so prevalent. When someone says something to you that’s gossip, simply ask, “Can I quote you on that?” Because if you can’t write it down and sign your name to it, you shouldn’t be saying it. On the other hand, if it’s real and valid, you ought to be able to sign your name to it!

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Chapter 5

Following God’s plan for sex
By Dr. Jack Graham | January 22, 2020

I once heard a grandfather who was talking about his grandson. He said, “You know, my grandson has more temptations before school starts at 8:30 in the morning than I had out Friday night looking for trouble!” And you know, he’s exactly right. In fact, one young lady told her father recently, “When I see how casual sex is treated by my classmates, there are times when I wonder, ‘What am I waiting for?’”

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Chapter 4

The importance of an optimistic outlook
By Dr. Jack Graham | November 22, 2019

Some people always look for a reason to be unhappy. They walk into a beautiful meadow, and pass all the flowers just to find the cow manure in the corner so they can complain! In my years of ministry, I’ve seen many people just like that. But if I had the choice, I’d definitely prefer to be with people who look for the positive.

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Chapter 10

How to live with a clear conscience
By Dr. Jack Graham | November 20, 2019

There was a man who bought a beautiful Labrador retriever and loved showing him off to the neighbors. But one day, he looked out the back door and his beautiful dog had the neighbor’s pet rabbit in his mouth. He didn’t know what to do, so he gently pried the dog’s mouth open and pulled out the rabbit. But it was too late. The rabbit was dead.

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Chapter 20

A Hero to Your Children
By Dr. Jack Graham | March 5, 2019

Now most men don’t consider themselves heroes. As a matter of fact, most heroes never considered themselves to be heroes. They didn’t set out to be heroes but ended up as great heroes because of the actions, the decisions, and the choices they made!

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Chapter 24

Staying Connected
By Dr. Jack Graham | February 14, 2019

Now, every person wants to live in close connection with others. God made us this way when He created us. He created us with a capacity to share the life of others, the desires, the dreams of others.

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Chapter 18

The power of life
By Dr. Jack Graham | February 7, 2019

I can remember a time where about the only way we had to communicate was a rotary dial phone, or maybe snail mail. Look at today, and the advances are beyond the invention of the Gutenberg Press and the printing press that so dramatically changed the world and the culture in that day. We are living in an age of information and communication.

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Financial Firewalls
By Dr. Jack Graham | October 18, 2018

There are all kinds of money managers and advisors in our world today: financial planners and bankers and stockbrokers and venture capitalists and certified public accountants and all kinds of men and women, attorneys, who offer financial advice and counsel.

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Smart Homes Wise Families
By Dr. Jack Graham | October 17, 2018

Smart homes are everywhere, and we live with all kinds of gadgets and innovations from computers to security systems and the house that does it’s own thing. It’s a smart house.

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Chapter 1

To drink or not to drink
By Dr. Jack Graham | October 16, 2018

If you are familiar with security systems, you probably have one in your car or in your home. You know how important that is in these days to protect your family, to protect your household goods. Therefore you most likely have an alarm system of some kind to protect you and your family.

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Chapter 22

Proverbs Parenting
By Dr. Jack Graham | October 15, 2018

This is a command, and that command is critical. We are to be a part of the lives of our children and to grow them up, not just to bring them into the world, but bring them up in the world.

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A challenge to live morally pure lives
By Dr. Jack Graham | August 24, 2018

My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent.

Proverbs 1:10

If someone dumped a pile of smelly, dirty trash in your family room, you’d probably be incensed! Yet how many families allow the garbage of our culture into our homes every single day?

Did you know the average home today has three TVs, three radios, two CD players, one computer, two DVD players, and one video game system? That’s a lot of the world getting into our family’s heads! And that’s a lot of the impurity and depravity of this world getting into our homes.

The best parental control isn’t the movie rating system or the television and video game rating system. The best parental control system is you, moms and dads!

Why? Because we’re called to protect our children’s purity.

The way we do this is by providing reasonable rules and boundaries regarding media consumption, computer use, dress, and your kids’ friends.

First Peter 5:8 says, “Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” This includes your kids and mine!

So we must fight the good fight of faith, and that includes displeasing our kids at times in order to protect their purity.


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Wise families fear and respect the Lord
By Dr. Jack Graham | August 23, 2018

Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.

Proverbs 1:8-9

As parents, it’s important to teach your kids to obey you. Because this is how they will learn to obey God!

In the verses above, the word instruction is from a Hebrew word that includes the idea of counsel, warning, and correction. Dads, your role in the family is to be firm in instruction, to lay down reasonable rules and fair boundaries, and to give correction and fair discipline.

The word teaching in the verses above describes the work of a mom in the house. It’s a word that actually means coaxing or coaching. In other words, moms, your role in teaching is to push the kids a little bit like a mama bird with a nest full of little birds.

When it’s time for those baby birds to fly, the mama stirs up the nest, flaps her wings, and coaxes those little birds to elevate!

Parents, I want to ask you today, are you teaching your children to obey you? Furthermore, when your kids look at your life, can they see that you’re obeying your heavenly Father?


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Chapter 31

What’s your true value as a woman?
By Dr. Jack Graham | May 4, 2018

Everywhere you turn, the world has a message for the women of today. Social media, fashion magazines, TV, billboards, and movies all use different words and images to communicate the same message:

If you’re truly a modern woman, if you’re really a successful woman, you must strive for physical perfection, professional success, and independence.

And if you’re a mother who’s investing time in caring for your kids, the world tries to make you believe you’re settling for less. But many women who’ve put everything aside to be professionally successful can find themselves at the top of the corporate ladder alone, desiring more, and looking for meaning in their lives.

In contrast to what the world tells women today, the Bible has the true message: God has elevated the position of womanhood and given every woman a place of honor and respect in the Christian home.

In Proverbs, God gives us a model of true womanhood for every woman, married or single.

The woman described in Proverbs 31 is a woman of inestimable value: “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels” (v. 10). A godly Christian woman is a precious treasure.

What makes you valuable as a woman? It’s your godliness and virtue. When you’re a Christ-centered, Spirit-filled woman committed to following Jesus Christ, you’ll be the godly woman God desires you to be.

In contrast to the world’s view that your value is based upon your outward beauty, independence, and professional success, God says your value is based upon the ageless inner beauty of your Christlike character.

No one is more charming, more beautiful, than a woman who glows with the glory and the presence of...

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Chapter 3

Finding the will of God
By Dr. Jack Graham | February 27, 2018

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
— Proverbs 3:5-6
Do you have some important decisions to make? Maybe you need to make critical choices about a relationship, your career, or concerning your children.
Well, regardless of the choices that may be before you, God cares about the decisions you and I will make. And if we let him, he will guide us to make choices that honor him and that will bless us.  
So let me share a few suggestions that can help you better understand the will of God:

·       First, our choices must align with the moral will of God. The Spirit will never lead us to do anything contrary to the Scripture, his truths, or principles.

 ·       Second, seek godly advice. Now, don’t seek just anyone’s opinion. Talk to people who know the Scripture, who are personally following God’s will, and who care about your spiritual faithfulness and growth.

 ·       Third, consider how your choice will impact your immediate relationships. We don’t live in isolation, so we must consider how decisions will touch our immediate family and dearest friends.

 ·       And fourth and finally, ask yourself, “What’s my motive for making this decision?” Your motive should be honest, sincere, and ultimately, needs to glorify God.



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Where is God when the storms come?
By | August 30, 2017

Where is God when the storms come?


The plans of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord.

             Proverbs 16:1


Throughout the history of our faith, the question has often been asked, “Where is God when tragedy strikes; and where is He when the storms come?” And as often as that question has been asked, there has been no shortage of answers put forth by Christians and non-Christians alike. But even deeper than that question is the concern by some that God is aloof when storms hit.


I just love what Corrie ten Boom, the great Christian who served the Lord during World War II and was a prisoner in a concentration camp, was quoted as saying. She said, “There is no panic in heaven; only plans!” What a perspective from a woman who knew what suffering and tragedy was all about!


Has it ever sunk in that nothing takes God by surprise? When tragedy strikes our lives; when the storms come, and destroy all that we have built; God remains steady. When storms, sickness, destruction, and death seem like they’re winning and we’re tempted to panic, God doesn’t flinch. You see, while we’re often taken by surprise, nothing takes God by surprise.


No matter how great the power of Satan, or the destructive forces of nature appear to be in this world; no matter how it may appear that evil is winning, no matter how overwhelming the storms of this life may seem; God’s power is mightier than the power of our enemy or the forces of nature. God is...

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Discipline and respect in the home.
By Dr. Jack Graham | July 20, 2017

Train up a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

—Proverbs 22:6

One of the most important things you can teach your children is respect.

Because unless a child learns respect, they learn rebellion. Children need to be taught respect for God, for parents, for school authorities, and for church leaders.

The reason is because we are each born with the inclination to rebel and disobey. As Proverbs 22:15 says, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.”

Now, I know that the “rod of discipline” is a controversial subject in today’s society. But regardless of where you stand on spanking your children, every child needs discipline.

So how do you know when should you should discipline your child?

  • You should discipline your child when he or she willfully disobeys, not matter what their age.
  • You should discipline your child when he or she steps out of bounds. Make sure your children know what the boundaries are and correct them when they break the rules.

Make the rules fair and reasonable—don’t major in the minors—but enforce the boundaries. When you teach and discipline your children on those things that are precious, valuable, and eternal, you’ll give them something to live by. And you’ll help grow them into the men and women God created them to be.

Are you modeling respect for God, parents, school authorities, and church leaders in your home?

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Chapter 14

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. 

—Proverbs 14:12


Proverbs 14:12 is such a humbling verse for me because as humans, we often think we have such great knowledge and wisdom. But God says that human wisdom leads to death.


That’s what makes living the Christian life so difficult sometimes. There are so many choices out there that look good and seem to make sense, but they do not lead us to the narrow way that is the only road to eternal glory in heaven.


To the human way of thinking, it seems common sense that if you try hard to be good and don’t kill anyone or commit any other horrifying crime, then you’re one of the better candidates for citizenship in heaven. This may seem right to many people, but this kind of thinking leads to destruction because the only way to heaven is to abandon our efforts at good works and trust Christ alone for salvation.


We don’t get voted into heaven, nor will we make it because we come out looking pretty good in comparison to others. Only the blood of Christ shed on the cross to forgive sin can qualify us for heaven.


Take time today to thank God for His great gift of salvation through the blood of Jesus Christ…and make sure you aren’t traveling the road that the world thinks is right. 



Take time today to check the “road” you’re traveling—and make sure you are heading toward Christ.

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A Father’s Blessing
By | June 20, 2016

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

—Proverbs 22:6

Every child needs the blessing of their father. So I want to show you today, dads, how you can BLESS your children.

Build your children’s self-esteem. Inside every child, God has created an incredible potential for life. Yet many kids aren’t acting like winners because they’ve never been built up in who they really are in Christ. As a father, you get the joy of building your children up in who they are!

Love your children unconditionally. This is a kind of love that must not be withheld! Unconditional love can be expressed in all kinds of ways. So dad, don’t be afraid to hug and kiss your kids! Be expressive! Don’t be standoffish, but rather be open and transparent with your love for your children.

Encourage your children’s best. So many children today grow up surrounded by constant criticism and negativity. Perhaps you even grew up in a family where there was constant criticism. But as a dad, you can break the cycle of criticism by praising and encouraging your kids in every way possible.

Shape your children’s values. You do this by praying for them, protecting them, and by teaching them to love God’s Word and to live in obedience to Him.

Share your faith with your kids. They say that in a relay race, the most critical moment is the passing of the baton from one runner to the next. So it is in the Christian life! You have the opportunity and the responsibility to pass the baton of faith to your children and ultimately to their...

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