Resources on Family

A challenge to live morally pure lives
By Dr. Jack Graham | August 24, 2018

My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent.

Proverbs 1:10

If someone dumped a pile of smelly, dirty trash in your family room, you’d probably be incensed! Yet how many families allow the garbage of our culture into our homes every single day?

Did you know the average home today has three TVs, three radios, two CD players, one computer, two DVD players, and one video game system? That’s a lot of the world getting into our family’s heads! And that’s a lot of the impurity and depravity of this world getting into our homes.

The best parental control isn’t the movie rating system or the television and video game rating system. The best parental control system is you, moms and dads!

Why? Because we’re called to protect our children’s purity.

The way we do this is by providing reasonable rules and boundaries regarding media consumption, computer use, dress, and your kids’ friends.

First Peter 5:8 says, “Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” This includes your kids and mine!

So we must fight the good fight of faith, and that includes displeasing our kids at times in order to protect their purity.

WISE FAMILIES ACCEPT THE CHALLENGE TO LIVE MORALLY PURE LIVES.

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Wise families fear and respect the Lord
By Dr. Jack Graham | August 23, 2018

Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.

Proverbs 1:8-9

As parents, it’s important to teach your kids to obey you. Because this is how they will learn to obey God!

In the verses above, the word instruction is from a Hebrew word that includes the idea of counsel, warning, and correction. Dads, your role in the family is to be firm in instruction, to lay down reasonable rules and fair boundaries, and to give correction and fair discipline.

The word teaching in the verses above describes the work of a mom in the house. It’s a word that actually means coaxing or coaching. In other words, moms, your role in teaching is to push the kids a little bit like a mama bird with a nest full of little birds.

When it’s time for those baby birds to fly, the mama stirs up the nest, flaps her wings, and coaxes those little birds to elevate!

Parents, I want to ask you today, are you teaching your children to obey you? Furthermore, when your kids look at your life, can they see that you’re obeying your heavenly Father?

WISE FAMILIES COMMIT THEMSELVES TO OBEDIENCE.

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Discipline and respect in the home.
By Dr. Jack Graham | July 20, 2017

Train up a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

—Proverbs 22:6

One of the most important things you can teach your children is respect.

Because unless a child learns respect, they learn rebellion. Children need to be taught respect for God, for parents, for school authorities, and for church leaders.

The reason is because we are each born with the inclination to rebel and disobey. As Proverbs 22:15 says, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.”

Now, I know that the “rod of discipline” is a controversial subject in today’s society. But regardless of where you stand on spanking your children, every child needs discipline.

So how do you know when should you should discipline your child?

  • You should discipline your child when he or she willfully disobeys, not matter what their age.
  • You should discipline your child when he or she steps out of bounds. Make sure your children know what the boundaries are and correct them when they break the rules.

Make the rules fair and reasonable—don’t major in the minors—but enforce the boundaries. When you teach and discipline your children on those things that are precious, valuable, and eternal, you’ll give them something to live by. And you’ll help grow them into the men and women God created them to be.

Are you modeling respect for God, parents, school authorities, and church leaders in your home?

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Are you willing to live for your family?
By Dr. Jack Graham | July 17, 2017

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

—Ephesians 6:4

America is in danger of losing an entire generation of young people. Why? I believe it’s because of a lack of male leadership in the home.

There is a war against the family with high stakes. And the key to winning this war is leadership. We need men to enlist in the war on the family.

Now, if you are a dad, I know you’re probably willing to lay down your life for your children.

 

But my question to you is this: Are you willing to live for your family? Are you willing to sacrifice your life now for your children?

What our children need today is men of spiritual quality who are devoted to their families… real men who raise their children both with strength and sensitivity, and who are in tune with their children’s needs.

Here are a few ways to do this…

  • Give your child enough freedom to enjoy life without being overprotective.
  • Don’t show favoritism or compare your children to each other.
  • Offer encouragement, not discouragement.
  • Don’t force your child to be something he or she is not.
  • Spend time with your children. Show them you love them.
  • Never, ever be cruel.
  • Raise your children with strong spiritual direction. That means we’re to provide protection, correction, and instruction.

As dads, you and I should have a passion for excellence in parenting. We have the responsibility to bring our children up with the training and admonition of the Lord. They need to know about rewards...

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How wise is your family?
By Dr. Jack Graham | July 11, 2017

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children…

—Deuteronomy 6:6-7

Do you know the difference between knowledge and wisdom? As a parent, it is important to teach your children with discernment, understanding, and wisdom.

Knowledge is the accumulation of facts. And, yes, we need an education and we need to be able to assess facts and figures. But Proverbs 24:3 says, “By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established.”

Why? Because simple knowledge isn’t enough. God teaches us to go a step further.  Wisdom is the practical and spiritual application of knowledge. Parents who make a difference teach their children how to put the facts to life and to work. And they also understand that school is not the primary source of a child’s education.

A successful child is never fully educated until he or she knows the ways of God from His Word.

I’m sure you’re aware of the anti-Christian bias in our schools today. It’s a war for the minds of our children! Secular humanists want to remove all mention of God from our textbooks and teachings, which eliminates wisdom from education and leaves just simple knowledge.

So who will teach our children wisdom? Who will teach them about the Word of God and things like truth, purity, integrity, morality, and honesty? Parents. 

As parents, it is your responsibility and mine to impart the wisdom of God at home. If we don’t teach them diligently the truth about God, about Jesus, and about God’s Word, who will?

We must commit to being mothers and fathers who make a difference by imparting...

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How strong is your family?
By Dr. Jack Graham | July 10, 2017

Therefore you shall keep his statutes and his commandments, which I command you today, that it may go well with you and with your children after you…

—Deuteronomy 4:40

How’s your family life? Do you have a strong family?

There’s a lot of attention paid today to what’s wrong with our families. But in one study at the University of Nebraska, researchers looked at the strengths of successful homes and families. They found six common qualities that identify strong families:

Strong families are committed to the family.
Strong families spend time together.
Strong families have good family communication.
Strong families express appreciation to one another.
Strong families have a spiritual commitment.
Strong families are able to work together to solve problems in a crisis.

As I look at this list, I believe the key to each ingredient is parenting. Successful families have parents who take the lead in each of these vital areas.

So, what about you? Are there any areas above that you could work on as a parent?

Do you have a spiritual commitment so that your family has a spiritual commitment? Do you express appreciation to your spouse and children? Do you foster open communication? Is spending time together important to you?

I want to challenge you today, as a parent, to go through this list and see how you check out. Then, determine to take the lead as a mom or dad in each of these vital areas!

Pick one characteristic of successful families to focus on as a mom or dad this week.

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